September 17, 2014

Conscious parents should not choose their favorites among their several children. According to scientists from Brigham Young University , The child who is not a favorite for their parents, has two times more likely in the future to use drugs, alcohol or become heavy smokers.

A study was conducted, which covered 282 families with children-adolescents. Researchers have carefully watched in different families include children. It was found that in families where a special closeness between relatives are not mentioned, children who love less often succumb to the temptation and smoked, drank alcohol or drugs. Moreover, if the family is clearly favored one of the children, then the "unloved" offspring of 3, 5 times more likely to become hostages of bad habits. Therefore, without a sense of family support attraction to alcohol and drug use among teenagers has increased.

However, scientists note that the way to really belong to the children of their parents, not as important as the perception of the situation by the child. Therefore, the relations within the family should be built so that children feel the same gentle and affectionate attitude of the adults.

By the way, in the UK studies have shown that one in twelve parent admitted to varying degrees of warm feelings toward their own children. Psychologists warn that stands out among the children of their own pets - a very serious error that leads to complexes like the least favorite of children, and among the favorites.

It should be remembered, and that the earlier scholars from the United States reported a negative impact on the psyche of the permanent yelling teenagers. Regular shouting and loud complaints from parents as a result may cause the development of the children of the doldrums and causing serious behavioral problems. However, even in generally good, friendly relations and close relationship with the children does not improve the situation. If parents show constant emotional incontinence, mental development of adolescents exposed to serious negative impact.

Watching over two years for the 976 families, the researchers noted that where the mother, father or both parents are constantly shouting at teenagers, children marked irritability, depression , Bad behavior, aggression. All these negative developments have evolved as a result of verbal aggression parents. According to scientists, parents need to communicate openly with their children and talk to them about their experiences and not to raise his voice.